Parent’s Greatest Challenge

Among the many phases of life, becoming a parent and then playing the role of a parent is very challenging for any one. Because this is a phase where you voluntarily take up the responsibility of bring up and molding the life of another human, and doing this is no easy task.

There are many qualities that you need to develop as a parent. But one of the most challenging thing is to practice that which you preach to the children. Yes, we all know that children mainly learn from observing, their surroundings the people they come in contact with, friends and others.

As a parent, you can command them to do this and to do that. But behavior patterns and communication children learn from seeing the parents and other members in the family. Your behavior pattern right from the way we talk, walk, the way we dress and the way we interact all this leaves a lasting impression on the Childs behavior.

Many of the elder’s live under an assumption that they are mere children and they don’t know anything and they don’t understand anything. But in reality it is not so, children very much understand the feelings and emotions of elders and the most important and effective way they learn anything is by seeing the elders do it and most importantly parents.

Here comes the challenging role that a parent has to play. We may tell the child to pray to God, but when it comes to us, do we ever find time to pray to God? Children learn easily when you take out time and make it a habit to pray along with them. This is the way they learn anything.

A child sees parent cooking and they want to do it, they see parent working on a computer they want to do it, they see parents doing jogging or cycling they want to do it with them. This is the way children learn anything by seeing and observing others doing it. Until they become adults they don’t know what is good and bad, so as a parent if you are behaving patterns are negative they learn that, and instead they are positive and good they learn that. They learn and do things by seeing others doing it.

So as parents first we have to become that which we want our children to become. If you want your child to be truthful, cheerful, active and full of life. You have to be so, in front of him. If you want him to respect you and love you, you have to love and respect your parents first. If you want him to acquire good habits and manners, you have to demonstrate them in your behavior, then he will try to imitate you and learn from you.